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Sacred, Not Secret

Explaining the Temple Ceremony to Non-member Guests

In the Beginning
It's never too early to begin sharing. Non-member relatives and friends could be introduced to the basics of the gospel (explaining eternal families and temples), long before an engagement, in conversations discussing personal beliefs. If they have a simple foundation laid, it is easier to build toward understanding. Do not keep your wedding location a secret, avoiding discussion. Tell your guests that you are being married in a temple of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Hiding this fact will make your guests uneasy. Feelings may be hurt and relationships damaged.

As with all challenges faced throughout life, starting off with a prayer, maybe even a fast, could provide guidance and confidence. Pray that your family and friends would understand and respect your choice. You might even pray for the ability to be a comfort to those who cannot understand.

One way to introduce the topic of temple weddings is to include a personalized letter with the wedding invitation itself. Larry Springer from Carrollton, Texas, along with his wife and children are the only members on his side of the family. He has had three children sealed to their spouses in temples. He said his letters have helped his family understand the importance of the occasion and to keep the feelings toward the Church very positive. He suggests that in your letter, you warmly announce the occasion, include a synopsis of the couple's courtship, and express how much you are looking forward to sharing the joy of the marriage with friends and family. Explain what it means to be sealed for eternity and a little about the lifestyle that is required to make such a covenant. Close the letter by again inviting them to join you at the reception and celebrate the marriage. A sample outline for the letter can be accessed in the resource section.

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